Monday, October 17, 2011

Writing and Spouses

Saturday was the Lucky 7 Anniversary with Mr. Humphries. He took me out in style:
Bellagio Hotel and Casino

We ate our faces off! (Does that saying actually make any sense?) This is a picture of my delicious jumbo shrimp cocktail and the view while I ate it:

Our table overlooked the dancing fountain show and the Eiffel Tower at Paris Las Vegas. It was a fabulous night. And guess what we talked about???? Yep, you writer friends guessed it: my manuscript. I totally talked his ear off, course after course, for nearly two hours! A few times I got so excited about things he had to tell me to keep my voice down about a killing scene near the end. One time he actually told me to put the steak knife down during another violent description. His actual words were, "You are starting to scare me." 

So my question is: How involved is your spouse in your writing? Do they beta read, brainstorm, ferociously edit? My guy is an avid Sports Page reader. Even the occasional Sports Illustrated article. Novels are not his thing. He often scratches his head at me and says, "How do you do it?" For him, writing = torture. But he supports me in other ways. He lets me have my writing time early every other morning. He lets me go to writing conferences with my friends. And he believes in me. I love him for that. 
Mr. Humphries & the B-Word in the Famous Bellagio Flower Garden

So how about your spouses/significant other: supporter, stimulator, saboteur?

P.S. I had a nice piece of chocolate cake in celebration of my writing Bestie Peggy landing "our" dream agent Sara Crowe last week!

19 comments:

  1. Mr. Humphries is a friggin' babe. We're totally staying at your house next time I come down to Vegas.

    ReplyDelete
  2. My hubby doesn't read either, but I bounce ideas off of him all the time. And, he can probably tell you as much about my book as my CP, but he hasn't actually read it. Right now he is helping me write some songs for one of my WIPS, and it's fun.

    Your date looks so fun!

    ReplyDelete
  3. LOL! Every fight scene description could be helped with a few steak knives :) My husband is not a big reader either, but he will read my WIPs for me. He's excellent at helping me with characterization (he has a psychology degree). When he tells me one of my characters are acting out of character--I believe him.

    ReplyDelete
  4. Congrats to you and the hubby and to your Bestie! And no, my hubs doesn't read anything that doesn't involve sports. His eyes tend to glaze over when I start talking about my book. He's glad I have my writer friends to talk to. ;)

    ReplyDelete
  5. How fun! What a fun anniversary and those jumbo shrimp look yummy! Congrats to Peggy too! That is awesome news!

    ReplyDelete
  6. I don't have a spouse. However, I do love the Bellagio.

    ReplyDelete
  7. How fun! Congrats on 7 years! I tell my hubby all about my writing, but he gets that glassy eyed stare. He tells me it's becasue he doesn't want me to stop writing becasue of his critique, but I think he's taking the easy way out, lol!

    ReplyDelete
  8. Sigh . . . I miss Las Vegas.

    my husband is awesome. I run story ideas off of him. He helps me tie things together. I read everything out loud to him when it's all rough. He remembers EVERYTHING, so he helps me patch up most little holes as we read, and he's my first step in the editing process every time :D

    ReplyDelete
  9. Hahaha! Your story totally cracked me up! Mostly because I could picture it vividly. And you scared me a bit, too. :) But happy seventh!

    My hubby will brainstorm with me. He'll read and leave comments, too. He ONLY reads adult books, though, so MG is a little lost on him.

    And thanks for the congrats! I hope the cake was rich and delicious.

    ReplyDelete
  10. which one is Mr. Humphries? The one in the blue shirt or the one with the hat? :PPP

    ReplyDelete
  11. Sounds like you had a great anniversary! My hubby isn't all the involved because he claims he cannot even spell a word correctly. LOL!

    ReplyDelete
  12. Congrats! It looks like you had a blast. I still have never made it to Vegas, but my sister made me promise I will go next year.
    I am lucky my hubby writes too so we are always talking about our WIP.

    ReplyDelete
  13. So weird. Our seventh anniversary was Sunday. And my hubby is pretty much the same with my writing - he keeps his distance, and supports when he can. I cannot imagine letting him READ anything I wrote - I think that makes me strange.

    Happy seventh! :)

    ReplyDelete
  14. Awww! What a wonderful anniversary! Having a supportive spouse is so important!

    ReplyDelete
  15. Awww, LUCKY!! And how fun! Congrats on your anniversary. ;) And you're so pretty, btw.

    ReplyDelete
  16. Happy anniversary :o)
    This is far too big a can of worms for me to open here. lol
    Let's just say that I'm humoured.

    ReplyDelete
  17. Happy anniversary. :)

    My husband is incredibly supportive. He doesn't read much of my stuff, mostly because he listens to me talk about it non-stop while I write it, so he already "knows how it ends." :) But he is a fabulous sounding board for ideas-- he even gave me the idea for my current WIP-- and he completely believes in my abilities and dreams.

    And I love him for it. :)

    ReplyDelete